How to Figure Out What You Want in Life
When everything changes, we often say, “I don’t know who I am anymore.” But here’s the truth: you’re not lost. You’re in-between. You’re shedding skins. You’re outgrowing roles. You’re making space for the next evolution of you. You’re in the process of reinventing yourself into your best self. Your identity is not lost, it’s just waiting to be rewoven. If you’re wondering how to figure out what you want in life then these journaling prompts will help you to find out what you want and how to live life to the fullest.
This is Part 5 of our Rebuild Your Life, Reinvent Yourself series. In this post, you’ll learn how to rethink your current identity and reshape your thoughts to help you rediscover your own unique personal brand.
Identity Isn’t a Destination. It’s a Living Fabric.
Your identity isn’t a fixed label. It’s a tapestry. Threads added and removed over time. Some parts get worn down. Others shimmer unexpectedly. And sometimes, after chaos or change, you have to weave a new section entirely.
This is not a crisis. This is craft.
You are not broken. You are becoming.
Why You Feel Like You’ve Disappeared
You’ve been operating in survival mode, not self-expression
You’ve prioritized roles (mother, partner, worker) over your inner essence
You’ve been so focused on holding everything together, there was no room left for dreaming, play, or passion
It makes sense you feel erased. But erasure is not the end. It’s the blank canvas.
Start with Fragments
When your whole self feels unclear, start with small truths:
What music do I love?
What colors make me feel alive?
What books do I reread?
What values do I never want to compromise on?
What do I miss doing?
These are golden threads. Start weaving.
Exercise: Create a “Self-Map”
Draw a circle. Put your name in the middle. Around it, map the different aspects of you:
The roles you play
The passions you have (even forgotten ones)
The values you hold
The dreams you still carry
You might surprise yourself with how much is still there.
Reclaiming Forgotten Pieces
Try this:
Wear something that feels like your old self.
Talk to someone who knew you before the breakdown.
Listen to music from a time you felt most free.
Memory isn’t just nostalgia. It’s medicine.
Journal Prompts:
Who was I before the world told me who to be?
What do I want to bring forward into my next chapter?
What parts of me am I done carrying?
Who am I when no one needs anything from me?
How to Figure Out What You Want in Life
You are not starting from scratch. You are starting from experience, from grit, from tenderness.
And piece by piece, day by day, stitch by stitch, you will reweave the woman you were always meant to become.
Not the one shaped by expectation. But the one shaped by truth.
Read the Full Series on Reinventing Yourself
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