How to Restart Your Life Using Emotional Anchors

After loss, burnout, motherhood, or any identity-shaking event, it’s tempting to ask: “What should I do next?” But maybe the better question is: “How do I want to feel?” Don’t shut out your emotions when trying to reset your life. Use emotional anchors to level up your self care routine, encourage more mindfulness and process them first.

Before we rebuild your to-do list, your brand, your business, or your daily routine, we have to rebuild your emotional foundation. Because the truth is: the life that broke you likely wasn’t built for the woman you are now.

How to Restart Your Life Using Emotional Anchors

This is Part 3 of our Rebuild Your Life, Reinvent Yourself series. In this post, we’re looking at how you can begin to connect with your current emotions, feelings and thoughts after experiencing a huge identity shift. Perhaps you’ve suffered a traumatic event, recently become a mother or even achieved all of your wildest dreams and now feel stuck and don’t know what to do next.

What Are Emotional Anchors?

Emotional anchors are the core feelings you want to experience in your daily life. They help you rebuild from a place of alignment, not anxiety. Think of them as your personal North Stars.

Some examples:

- Peace instead of pressure

- Freedom instead of obligation

- Joy instead of duty

- Creativity instead of chaos

- Connection instead of isolation

When you design your days around these anchors, even the smallest decisions start to feel like acts of devotion.

Step 1: Identify Your Emotional Anchors

Ask yourself:

- What are the top 3 feelings I miss the most?

- What feelings do I want more of in my life?

- When did I last feel truly alive?

Make a list. Narrow it down to 3-5 core emotions.

Step 2: Audit Your Current Life

Take a gentle inventory:

- Which parts of my current life drain me?

- Which moments (if any) already align with my anchors?

- Where am I living from obligation rather than desire?

Awareness isn’t to create guilt. It’s to create clarity.

Step 3: Design Small Moments Around Your Anchors

You don’t need a whole new life. You need sacred fragments that feel like you again.

If your anchor is creativity: doodle during nap time. Try one new recipe a week. If your anchor is freedom: restructure your routine to include 30 minutes just for you. If your anchor is peace: say no to one obligation that doesn’t feel aligned.

Tiny rituals. Big results.

A Visualization Exercise

Close your eyes and imagine this: It’s 12 months from now. You wake up in a space that feels safe, soft, inspiring. You move through your morning without urgency. Your child is nearby. You have created income from something you enjoy. You are no longer rushing, apologizing, or shrinking. You are living from your emotional anchors.

What do you see? Smell? Hear? What are you wearing? What are you working on? Who are you with?

Write it down. This is not just a dream—this is a blueprint. To find out more about the power of visualization and how it actually works then make sure you read this book, which also shows you how to bring your goals to life using visualization, manifestation and creating your own vision board.